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How To Shop for Her this Holiday Season

December 4th, 2013

With the Holidays fast approaching, I know many of you are probably looking the perfect gift for that special lady in your life. Though I can offer some general guidance, like head over to Net-A-Porter, The Outnet, Shopbop, or Rue La La, I’m unfortunately not going to be very helpful with specifics. But wouldn’t it be great to know what women want? To help with that question, I’ve invited four of my favorite female fashion bloggers to share a few tips on shopping for your lady as well as some things they’d love to see under the tree. Take it away, ladies!

Doina from The Golden Diamonds - He Spoke Style
Meet Doina, the lovely woman behind the blog, The Golden Diamonds. One thing I love about Doina’s style is her incredible ability to seamlessly combine luxury pieces with budget, or fast fashion, items, proving that it’s not what you wear but how you wear it that makes you look like a million bucks.

December is such a beautiful time of the year! Lights everywhere, joy in peoples’ hearts, carols in cafes, snow on the empty streets, everyone seems so happy and peaceful waiting for Christmas to finally arrive. Oh wait, Christmas, and Christmas means gifts! I’m sure for many of you, when it’s time to visit the shops and buy gifts for your loved ones, the whole “holidays are coming” idea sounds like hell. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not because we don’t like spending money on those we love, but because we usually don’t know what to spend the money on. I think it’s particularly hard when you have to buy a gift for your “other half.” So guys, I’m here to help you! :)

I’ve always considered Christmas gifts different from any others you usually buy for birthdays, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and so on. The difference is that for other occasions we tend to buy something fancy—maybe even expensive—that we know the person has been dreaming about for a long time. However, Christmas requires a bit more thought, personality, and intimacy. As a girl, I think lingerie, shoes and beauty products are the best presents… after a Ferrari of course, haha!

So here is a list of some nice things I’ve found for you, my dear men. I hope you find something for your beloved one and also wish you Merry Christmas and Happy Shopping!


Shai from Drunk on Shoes - He Spoke Style
Meet Shai from Drunk on Shoes. Shai introduced herself to me earlier this year in Dallas saying, “Hi, I’m Shai.” I, of course, heard ‘shy,’ which I quickly discovered couldn’t be further from the truth! I can’t figure out whether I love her style or her personality most. Luckily, I don’t have to chose.

Women can be exceedingly complex and yet oh so simple all at the same time… Sooooo… that basically makes us IMPOSSIBLE to shop for. The trick is to plan ahead, pay attention, and ask their friends! Almost every girl out there has a giant list of items they want and they usually talk about it with their besties. For me, when it comes to getting a gift from my special someone, (hi hubby!) I always hope for something in the form of jewelry. Probably because I don’t really trust him to pick out clothes or shoes for me. LOL.

Jewelry is the safest bet but you have to know her style. That part is easy to figure out. Pay close attention to what she already has and likes to wear. If there’s something she wears all the time, maybe upgrade it to a fancier piece. Also anything personalized is a winner. And NO, I don’t mean a necklace that spells out her name! I’m talking about taking a piece and getting it engraved in some sort of hidden way so that it’s like a secret between the two of you. This gives us women all the feels and swoony swoons.

But no matter what your budget is, make sure the gift is thoughtful and shows that you had some sort of thought process about who she is and what she likes. And if you are REALLY stuck, get her one of these items from my list and tell her Drunk On Shoes made you do it. Happy Holidays to all you He Spoke Style readers! xoxo, DOS


Lynsey from Law of Fashion - He Spoke Style

Super cute, super smart, and super fun. That’s the best way I can describe Lynsey from Law of Fashion. If Lynsey and I are attending the same event we will find each other, we will have a drink, and we will have a great conversation. If I were you, I’d listen to this girl.

There are two kinds of gifts I love to receive: (1) unique items I would never splurge on myself, or (2) something thoughtful that shows the giver was listening to me. First off, finding something worth splurging on doesn’t have to mean spending thousands of dollars. It could be something as simple as Frends headphones or a set of Rablabs coasters (both killer items I would love to have but not necessarily things I would fork the cash over for on a normal day). That being said, if you are looking for the wow factor, I would be pretty stoked if on Christmas morning I woke up to a Givenchy bag. Just saying.

As for No. 2, finding something thoughtful sounds hard but is really easy (I promise, you can do it). For example, perhaps your lady just got a new phone and could use a new case. Easy. Combine this with factor one (i.e., pick one she would never splurge on herself) and you’ve got a killer gift. Even something as simple as the perfume she always uses but is running out of or a clutch because, like me, she is constantly complaining about not having one on hand. I once had a guy give me a keychain. It sounds silly and unromantic but, at the time, I was constantly losing my keys. After all of these years, these are the gifts I remember.


I first got to know Ahn from 9to5 Chic last month when we both collaborated with Banana Republic on their Open For Joy campaign. I was immediately drawn to her super classy, understated, and very polished style.

My best advice for guys looking to surprise their special lady for the holidays is to listen! My husband overheard me saying one day that my favorite lipstick color was discontinued and surprised me with three tubes of that same lipstick! It wasn’t about the price of the item—the fact that he listened to what was a remark made in passing and then tracked down a few remaining tubes of that exact color blew me away. It’s truly the thought that counts. Happy holidays!


A big thank you to Doina, Shai, Lynsey, and Ahn for offering up so many great tips and gifts.

Good luck with your Holiday shopping and thanks for reading.

Stylishly Yours,

He Spoke Style

Brian Sacawa

Brian Sacawa is the Founder of He Spoke Style and one of the original men’s style influencers. Since 2013, his goal has remained the same: to provide men the advice and inspiration they need to dress well, develop their personal style, and gain more confidence. Brian’s interest and passion for men’s style and luxury watches has led to his writing for The Robb Report, The Rake, and Sotheby’s and he has been quoted on menswear in publications such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal,, Brides Magazine, and the Huffington Post. He lives in the woods north of Baltimore with his wife, Robin, kitties Nick and Nora, and German Shepherd/Collie mix Charlie.

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